Gay Pride was conceived primarily to make the society aware of the LGBT community. To let them know that we are an integral part of society and we want acceptance, equal rights, and mostly to break the stereotype.
We wanted to let the world know, that we are no different from our heterosexual counterpart. The only difference, we are sexually attracted to the same sex. Other than that, we have the same background, upbringing, go to the same schools, hold the same job positions, from doctors to engineers, lawyers all the way to fashion designers.
In the pride march we have groups from all walks of life establishing this same fact. But along the way, over the years, the main reason of Pride Parade has changed or broadened.
We started out to build awareness of our sexuality and not our preferences or fetishes in sex.
What turns me on in my bedroom doesn’t need to be brought outside. We are not looking for acceptance of a ‘leather daddy’ or ‘nudist’ or S&M/BDSM. That’s part of the sexual act. The people who enjoy any or all of these are homosexuals and that’s the core of Pride.
The heterosexual world see us as sex driven, crazy, shallow, effeminate bunch. And today’s pride everywhere just reinforces that stereotype. Except a few floats, the rest has sex as their main theme. From half naked to fully naked men and women dominate the pride.
What really are we trying to tell the world here? That yes, our entire existence revolves around sex. The man in leather, or the naked man, or the gym built naked jock; that’s their sole identity. So if someone gives a leather man a job, he can expect the guy to show up in full leather gear.
But that’s not true..is it?
Its not about sex, its about sexuality. One lesbian lady had brought her 10 year old niece for the first time to pride. She had briefed her what to expect in the parade. Something she forgot to mention was, there would be naked men. That poor kid was shocked and scandalized when she saw the old naked men walking. She was not prepared for this. In the lady’s own words, ” My niece was traumatized by the sight of the older naked men.”
We covered thousands of years from the Stone Age when humans were naked to today’s civilized world of Prada, Gucci, Louis Vuitton only to go back to the Dark Age? We mastered the art of clothing just to shed them in public.
Its times like these, I feel more ashamed and embarrassed than proud for being gay.