A different culture, a different social set-up, but similar social expectations… and a gay man caught in this web and making the best he could and in his own words…”HAPPY”. A logical, practical man, who found the perfect balance, at least for the time being.
A little background of the guy…
He got married due to social and parental obligations. Has a wonderful wife and a son. Making a lot of money by working in an MNC. Three of them are happily living as a unit. As far as I could gather, he is very happy and so is everyone around him.
He has an urge to be with a man every couple of months that he needs to fulfill.
Q1. Are you happy?
A. Happiness is a very subjective term. In Indian context we feel happy when we make someone happy. My mom, wife, son and relatives are happy. This makes me happy.
Q2. Why did you get married knowing you are gay?
A. In India either you have to be extremely strong to remain single or emotionally unattached. I was neither. My mom was alone after my father and needed company. My small sacrifice balanced the equation.
Q3. Ain’t you cheating your wife?
A. If you consider my body I am cheating, but if you consider my soul, its hers. For a few years after marriage I felt incomplete and felt like I was cheating myself, cause I never used to go out. Now whenever I feel the urge I get hold of a guy like you and satisfy my physical needs.
Q4. How long will this continue?
A. Till I want my marriage to last. My physical satisfaction has lead to my completeness in my married life. At least I am not sharing my bed with another woman who can be a threat to my wife and son.
Q5. How did you train your mind…being a total bottom?
A. It was simple. I simply made my mind like my wife. I started feeling for her and the liking started.
Q6. Don’t you feel, by going out you are putting yourself and your wife in grave danger?
A. No, I am very careful in choosing people and I make sure I use protection. It is much better than the straight guys who go to other women every fortnight.
Q7. If your wife comes to know?
A. That’s a risk associated with every man who goes out.