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Two HUGE victory for the LGBT community and Two HUGE defeats for NOM

Its been a great day for the LGBT community today. We had two victories in one day and when the victories are against National Organization for Marriage (NOM), it tastes even more sweet.

No. 1 and the most important: BILL HB437 which was introduced in New Hampshire to repeal the Same-Sex Marriage law was killed by the republican lead House of Representatives by a whopping 211-116 votes. This is a huge blow for NOM and an incredible but a shocking victory for us considering the House of Representatives in NH is totally GOP dominated.

The 2nd defeat for National Organization for Marriage was when the Director of corporate Fairness Project for NOM Mr. Jonathan Baker asked the CEO of STARBUCKS Mr. Howard Shultz about their declaration to support Same-Sex Marriage.  Mr. Shultz’s response?

“Any decision of this type or magnitude has to be made with great thoughtfulness and I would assure you that a senior team at Starbucks discussed this.  To be very candid with you, this was not something that was a difficult decision for us and we did share this with the board as well…. We made that decision, in our view, through the lens of humanity and being the kind of company that embraces diversity.”  And the auditorium full of stock holders burst into a deafening applause.

Needless to say… NOM is not happy with this answer and has already started to plan its attack against STARBUCKS by designing a “Boycott Starbucks” website which will be launched soon asking people to pledge to boycott the company.

I am not a fan of STARBUCKS coffee, but I pledge to buy atleast 1 coffee every week from them from now on.



Vic Eliason 76 yrs old is the VOICE OF CHRISTIAN YOUTH…say wah!!!

Image Detail  This the man VIC ELIASON who is the radio host of Voice of Christian Youth. I mean honestly? He looks like he’s gonna kick the bucket anytime. But here is what he had to say about LGBT community and about Ellen DeGeneres.

“There comes a time when there needs to be a holy rejection of corruption that is literally putrefying our families. It’s time, long overdue, and too many people are sitting back and just letting Sodom and Gomorrah come walking in the door. Walking in the door? Good grief, it’s already in the door, you can’t even turn your TV set on without being slammed in the face with some commercial with anything from body parts to who knows what all, personal products and things of a nature that weren’t even considered appropriate to be parading in front of our little kids. Now little kids in the first and the second and the third grade are being trained to know that being gay is O.K. and we don’t want to say anything bad about that because that would be bullying. Does it offend you, when you hear what retailers now—putting icons before you and your kids who are known, and according to some, flaming homosexuals?”  via Right Wing Watch

Another comedian spews hate.. Adam Carolla

Adam Carolla went on an anti-gay rant in his ‘Adam Carolla Show’ last week.

He said in his podcast that LGBT people are ruining his life and should shut up from talking about equality. He even had a suggestion for us. We should change LGBT to YUCK.

Then he threw a punch at the transgender community  by saying, “When did we start giving a shit about these people?”

I have never seen any of his comedy shows ever. But I know of him from Dancing With The Stars. And if my memory serves me right, he was under fire even in that show for opening his big mouth and saying something offensive. He really has a big mouth, literally and figuratively.

Its really funny and disgusting when it all goes down the same way from there on. The LGBT organizations hold these comedians responsible and the comedians in turn always say the same thing. That they are sorry IF their comments have hurt anybody (as if they didn’t know it would) and they are just comedians and not politicians so are not always politically correct.

From when being a comedian is a free pass at hurting people’s feeling. There is just a handful of politicians and the rest of the population in this world are just people. So by his excuse, we can all go around talking crap about people because none of us are politicians.

Flashback on one of his comments on Loveline  where he claimed gay parents are not as good as straight parents. What gives a comedian the right to make such comments. He said himself that he is a comedian. So he should make jokes and not pass his personal thoughts and judgments to others.

Their apology holds no meaning. They very well know what they are talking about when they all do these skits. If they are not pulled up for these, they just keep on  doing it and the moment they are challenged, they promptly apologize, as if just saying sorry is enough. They never mean it. They would do it again if they are sure they can get away with it. If morally they don’t see it to be wrong, just a verbal apology is useless.

Shame on him and his kind.

Politically Incorrect…a breath of fresh air

My over-riding point was Savage had really bad timing, and his comments/outbursts hurt #LGBT community.

This was tweeted by David Badash, the blogger of The New Civil Rights Movement.

I absolutely love his blogs and tweets. That’s why I follow him. Most of my blog posts come from his posts and a few others. As I am not a political or news junkie, his posts and tweets are my window to whats happening in the LGBT community in America and around the world. So I have a lot of respect for him and his work.

But yesterday’s tweet left me a little cold.

For those who are not sure who is being mentioned in  the above tweet: Dan Savage of  It Gets Better fame, and his little faux pas on Bill Maher‘s show on HBO.

I don’t see anything wrong in wearing your heart in your sleeves once in a while. We are all humans and there are certain things in life we are passionate about, in his case like a lot of us, LGBT issues. And what Michele Bachmann and her extreme right bible thumping politicos/psychos are teaching, spreading lies and trying to validate those with more lies, those who are taking the brunt, would snap once in a while. Why would it hurt the LGBT community.

Does David mean to say, the thought never crossed his mind, that if each and every one of them just drop dead one day, the world would be a better place? Its not like he literally means going out and gun them down.

Its like when we were kids and in school. The teacher we disliked the most, we will hope, he/she would fall and break a leg or just get sick so that he/she would not be able to come to school for a long time. Its just being human. One doesn’t have to be politically correct all the time.

We are already seeing what a very politically correct organization GOProud is doing. The so called conservative gay organization GOProud (click for better understanding)  and their shenanigans is something we do not need any more. Savage can be our voice and our thought unadulterated, uncensored.

Watch the clip below and see for yourself.

Hindu religion and Gender queerness. An amazing read.

Below is the link to an amazing and enlightening piece by Devdutt, published in one of the Indian newspapers in 2009. Just realized the link is not working anymore… so I am copy pasting the article here.

It was the ninth night of the war at Kurukshetra. The exact midpoint of the legendary 18-day bloodbath. Not the start, not the end, but the middle. The war had been inconclusive. Sometimes the Kauravas led by the old sire Bhisma had the upper hand; sometimes the Pandavas led by the young warlord, Dhristadhyumna, Draupadi’s twin brother, had the upper hand. A see-saw that was going nowhere. “Bhisma loves us too much to defeat us,” said the Pandavas. “Yet not enough to let us win,” reminded Krishna. “He must die, if dharma has to be established. ” But Bhisma had been given a boon by his father that he could choose the time of his death. No one could therefore kill him. “If we cannot kill him, we must at least immobilize him.” “But no one can defeat him,” said the Pandavas. “Even the great Parashurama could not overpower him in a duel. So long he holds a weapon in hand he is invincible.” “Then we must make him lower his bow,” said Krishna. “He will never lower his bow before any armed man.” “What about an armed woman?” “A woman? On the battlefield? ” sneered the Pandavas, forgetting they themselves worshipped Durga, the goddess of war and victory. “But it is against dharma to let women hold weapons and step on the battlefield. ” “Who said so?” asked Krishna. “Bhisma says so. Dharma says so.” “Dharma also says that old men should retire and make way for the next generation so that the earth’s resources are not exploited by too many generations. But Bhisma did the very opposite. He renounced his right to marry, so that his old father could resume the householder’ s life,” argued Krishna. “He was being an obedient son.” “He was indulging his old father at the cost of the earth. That vow spiraled events that has led to this war. It is time to be rid of him, by force or cunning, if necessary. We must find someone before whom the old patriarch will lower his bow. If not a woman, then someone who is not quite a man.” “What about Shikhandi!” said Dhristadhyumna. “He is my elder brother. He was born a woman. But my father, Draupada, was told by the Rishis that he would one day become a man. Though born with female genital organs, Shikhandi was raised a son, taught warfare and statecraft. He was even given a wife. On his wedding night, the wife, daughter of king Hiranyavarna of Dasharna, was horrified to discover that her husband was actually a woman. My father tried to explain that actually Shikhandi was a man with a female body and that Rishis had told him he would someday acquire a male body. The woman refused to listen. She screamed and ran to her father and her father raised an army and threatened to destroy our city. A distraught Shikhandi went to the forest, holding himself responsible for the crisis, intent on killing himself. There he met a Yaksha called Sthunakarna who took pity on him and gave him his manhood for one night. With the Yaksha’s manhood, Shikhandi made love to a concubine sent by his father-in-law and proved he was no woman. The wife was therefore forced to return. Now, it so happened, that Kubera, king of the Yakshas, was furious with what Sthunakarna had done and so cursed Sthunakarna that he would not get his manhood back so long as Shikhandi was alive. As a result what was supposed to be with him for one night has remained with him till this moment. My elder brother, Shikhandi, born with a female body, has a Yaksha’s manhood right now. What is he, Krishna? Man or woman?” Krishna knew things were more complex. Shikhandi, may have been raised as a man and may have acquired a manhood later in life, but in his previous life, he was a woman called Amba, whose life Bhisma had ruined. Bhisma had abducted her along with her sisters and forced them to marry, not him, but his weakling of a brother, Vichitravirya (a name that means `queer masculinity’ or `odd manliness’). When she begged Bhisma to let her marry the man she loved, he let her go. But the lover refused to marry Amba, now soiled by contact with another man (Bhisma). Distraught she returned, only to have Vichitravirya turn her away, and Bhisma shrugging helplessly. “When you have taken the vow of never being with a woman, what gave you the right to abduct me,” she yelled. Bhisma ignored her. Amba begged Parashurama, the great warrior, to kill Bhisma but he failed. Exasperated, irritated, she prayed to Shiva. “Make me the cause of his death,” she begged. Shiva blessed her – it would be so, but only in her next life. Amba immediately leapt into a pyre eager to accelerate the process. “I think, Shikhandi should ride into the battlefield on my chariot. Let Arjuna stand behind him,” said Krishna. The tenth day dawned. The chariot rolled out. Behind Krishna stood the strange creature, neither man nor woman, or perhaps both, or neither, and behind him, Arjuna. “You bring a woman into this battlefield, before me,” roared Bhisma seeing Shikhandi. “This is adharma. I refuse to fight.” Krishna retorted in his calm melodious voice, “You see her as a woman because she was born with a female body. You see her as a woman because in her heart she is Amba. But I see her as a man because that is how her father raised her. I see her as a man because she has a Yaksha’s manhood with which he has consummated his marriage. Whose point of view is right, Bhisma?” “Mine,” said Bhisma. “You are always right, are you not, Bhisma? When you allowed your old father to remarry, when you abducted brides for your weak brother, when clung to future generation after future generations like a leech, trying to set things right. There is always a logic you find to justify your point of view.  So now, Shikhandi is a woman – an unworthy opponent. That’s your view, not Shikhandi’s view. He wishes to fight you.” “I will not fight this woman,” so saying Bhisma lowered his bow without even looking towards Shikhandi. “Shoot him now, Shikhandi. Shoot him, now, Arjuna,” said Krishna, “Shoot hundreds of arrows so that they puncture every inch of this old man’s flesh. Pin him to ground, immobilize him so that he can no longer immobilize the war.” “But he is like a father to me,” argued Arjuna. “This war is not about fathers or sons. This is not even about men or women, Arjuna. This is about dharma. And dharma is about empathy. Empathy is about inclusion. Even now, he excludes Shikhandi’s feelings – all he cares about his version of the law. Shoot him now. Rid the world of this old school of thought so that a new world can be reconstructed. ” And so Arjuna released a volley of arrows. Hundreds of arrows punctured every limb of Bhisma’s body, his hands, his legs, his trunk, his thigh, till the grandsire fell like a giant Banyan tree in the middle of a forest. It is said that the earth would not accept him for he had lived too long – over four generations instead of just two. It is said the sky would not accept him because he had not fathered children and repaid his debt to ancestors. So he remained suspended mid-air by Arjuna’s arrows. With the fall of Bhisma, the war moved in favor of the Pandavas. Nine days later, the Kauravas were defeated and dharma had been established. Without doubt, Shikhandi changed the course of the war and played a pivotal role in the establishing of dharma. He was without doubt a key tool for Krishna. A cynic would say, Shikhandi was used by Krishna. A devotee will argue, Krishna made even Shikhandi useful. But his story is almost always overlooked in retellings of the great epic Mahabharata, or retold rather hurriedly, avoid the details. Authors have gone so far as to conveniently call the Sthunakarna episode a later interpolation, hence of no consequence. Shikhandi embodies all queer people – from gays to lesbians to Hijras to transgendered people to hermaphrodites to bisexuals. Like their stories, his story remains invisible. But the great author, Vyasa, located this story between the ninth night and the tenth day, right in the middle of the war, between the start and the finish. This was surely not accidental. It was a strategic pointer to things that belong neither here nor there. This is how the ancients gave voice to the non-heterosexual discourse. Shikhandi embarrases us today. Sthunakarna who willingly gave up his manhood frightens us today. But neither Shikhandi nor Shthunkarna embarrassed or frightened Krishna or Vyas. Both included Shikhandi in the great narrative. But modern writers have chosen to exclude him. That is the story of homosexuals in human society. Homosexuals have always existed in God’s world but more often than not manmade society has chosen to ignore, suppress, ridicule, label them aberrants, diseased, to be swept under carpets and gagged by laws such as 377. They have been equated with rapists and molesters, simply because they can only love differently. Indian society, however, has been a bit different from most others. Like all cultures, Indian culture for sure paid more importance to the dominant heterosexual discourse. But unlike most cultures, Indian culture did not condemn or invalidate the minority non-heterosexual discourse altogether. Hence the tale of Shikhandi, placed so strategically. Hence the tale of Bhangashvana, retold by none other than Bhisma to the Pandavas, after the war before he chose to die. Yudhishtira asked, “Grandfather, who gets more sexual pleasure – men or women? What is sweeter to the ear – the sound of father or mother?” Bhisma replied, “No one knows really. Except perhaps Bhangashvana, the only one who was both man and woman. Bhangashvana was a great king, with many wives and many sons. Indra cursed him to be a woman. So he lived as a woman, took a husband and bore him children. He was thus a man to his wife and a woman to his husband.  He thus had two sets of children, one who called him `father’ and another who called him `mother’. He alone is qualified to answer your questions.” Such ideas will never find mention in most scriptures around the world. But they are part of our cultural inheritance. Clearly many keepers of culture have not heard the stories of Shikhandi, or Bhangashvana or of Yuvanashva, the king who accidentally became pregnant and delivered the great Mandhata, or of the two queens who made love to each other to produce a child without bones (bones being the contribution of sperm, according to mythology), or of Mohini, the female form of Vishnu, who enchanted even Shiva, the great hermit. Clearly they have chosen to ignore that every year, in Brahmotsavam festival, the image of the Lord Venkateshwara Balaji, who is Vishnu on earth, is dressed in female garments reminding us all of Mohini. Clearly they are oblivious of how Shrinathji in Nathdwara is lovingly bedecked with a sari, the stri-vesha or women’s attire, in memory of the time he wore Radha’s clothes to appease her. Clearly they are not aware of Gopeshwarji of Vrindavan, Shiva who took the form of a milkmaid so that he could dance the raas-leela with Krishna. And they certainly have turned a blind eye to the rooster-riding Bahucharji, of Gujarat, patron goddess of many Hijras. Western religions have, and will, look upon Hinduism’s cross-dressing gods as vulgar and perverted. The British mocked us so much during the Raj that we went into apology and denial. Now an entire generation does not even know about these tales and these deities and these rituals. Westernization did not change bedroom habits; it has led to an embarrassed denial of our sacred scriptures. One thing we must grant the homosexual – he has united the cantankerous right wing. He has done what the constitution of India could not do – bring the radical Islamic cleric, the saffron robed yogis, the Bible-bashing clergyman to same side of the table. Together these self-proclaimed guardians of culture would like the homosexuals to be made invisible once more. Baba Ramdevji would for sure celebrate the celibacy of Bhisma. If he would have his way, he would, perhaps, drag Shikhandi to the mental asylum and teach him breathing exercises until the Yaksha’s appendage drops and he/she chokes and gasps into heterosexuality. But not Krishna. On Krishna’s chariot, Shikhandi – as he/she is – will always be welcomed.

His excellent control of the language, meticulous, deep and research driven writing are what makes it a very pleasant read.

Hence, unlike the west, anti-homosexuality individuals have a very hard time bringing religion in their arguments.

Pride reinforces Prejudice

Gay Pride was conceived primarily to make the society  aware of the LGBT community. To let them know that we are an integral part of society and we want acceptance, equal rights, and mostly to break the stereotype.

We wanted to let the world know, that we are no different from our heterosexual counterpart. The only difference, we are sexually attracted to the same sex. Other than that, we have the same background, upbringing, go to the same schools, hold the same job positions, from doctors to engineers, lawyers all the way to fashion designers.

In the pride march we have groups from all walks of life establishing this same fact. But along the way, over the years, the main reason of Pride Parade has changed or broadened.

We started out to build awareness of our sexuality and not our preferences or fetishes in sex.

What turns me on in my bedroom doesn’t need to be brought outside. We are not looking for acceptance of a ‘leather daddy’ or ‘nudist’ or S&M/BDSM. That’s part of the sexual act. The people who enjoy any or all of these are  homosexuals and that’s the core of Pride.

The heterosexual world see us as sex driven, crazy, shallow, effeminate bunch. And today’s pride everywhere just reinforces that stereotype. Except a few floats, the rest has sex as their main theme. From half naked to fully naked men and women dominate the pride.

What really are we trying to tell the world here? That yes, our entire existence revolves around sex. The man in leather, or the naked man, or the gym built naked jock; that’s their sole identity. So if someone gives a leather man a job, he can expect the guy to show up in full leather gear.

But that’s not it?

Its not about sex, its about sexuality. One lesbian lady had brought her 10 year old niece for the first time to pride. She had briefed her what to expect in the parade. Something she forgot to mention was, there would be naked men. That poor kid was shocked and scandalized when she saw the old naked men walking. She was not prepared for this. In the lady’s own words, ” My niece was traumatized by the sight of the older naked men.”

We covered thousands of years from the Stone Age when humans were naked to today’s civilized world of Prada, Gucci, Louis Vuitton only to go back to the Dark Age? We mastered the art of clothing just to shed them in public.

Its times like these, I feel more ashamed and embarrassed than proud for being gay.

This Apple is not for this Adam

My moon sign being Libra, it’s not always easy for me to make up my mind. The mental scale tips back and forth forever before it comes to a balanced decision.

I was going through this usual process while trying to decide, when I upgrade my HTC phone, which one to get. The choice was obviously between iphone and Blackberry.

Blackberry is more sophisticated and business whereas iphone is more hip and funky. So needless to say my scale was tipping towards iphone.

And all of a sudden the decision making became so easy.

Apple approved an anti-gay app from Exodus International, which is an organisation which believes and preaches that homosexuality is reversible and can be cured through therapy.

I won’t ask why Apple did this? Why it didn’t think there was anything wrong with this app. Why it didn’t strike their brilliant mega minds that iphone being mostly a younger generation’s gadget, would play havoc in the minds of young gay or questioning youths or it might turn into a contributing factor to youth/teenage suicide among the LGBT community?

Coz if I ask, I will have to listen to their answers and they would be just a bunch of well rehearsed, politically correct bull shit. I can almost hear one of their justification already before they have even published it. ” We cater to the LGBT population and have Grindr. So its only fair we have a balance and cater to others too.” I will spare myself from that ordeal.

So instead, I will just go with Blackberry. And my list of boycotting companies are growing.

Walmart is on the top. I stopped shopping there when I first heard that Walmart is selling a book in the Kids section which talks about how being gay is a medical condition and can be cured.

And now this.

So thank you Apple, for making my life a little bit easier in the decision making part. Because this apple is rotten for sure.



Apple has taken the App down and its no longer available to consumers after a petition by Truth Wins Out was signed by over 146000 people.

Thank you  for creating the platform and to Truth Wins Out for taking the initiative.

But the point is, why did we have to sign a petition, two organizations had to go to this length to get the app out of the store? It means Apple doesn’t think there was anything wrong with the App, but removed it under pressure.

So are they really pro LGBT or are does their balance tilt whichever way the business is?

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