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Nay to Gay in India…

So all hell broke lose, the earth fell off its axis when India saw its 2nd commercial gay film released.. ¬†Dunno Y…Na Jaane Kyon.

No one is mentioning My Brother Nikhil any more. Why? Is it because the gay story line was very subtle? If people chose to not recognize it as a gay film, they can fool themselves by saying, “Its just friendship.” As there were no kisses or a sex scene in the film. That’s so naive. Or should I say hypocritical.

And Yuvraaj Parasher has been disowned by his family.

Way to go. I came out to my sister 3 weeks back. I was ready to come out to my entire family but my sister asked me not to. Which is fine. But when I decided to come out, I had reached a point where, if my family had disowned me, I wouldn’t have cared. My sister didn’t. She said, it doesn’t matter to her. I am still her little brother. And don’t get me wrong, I love my family to death.

But when a gay man comes out to his family, he has already evaluated the aftermath and has reconciled with that fact. So disowning him, would not make much of a difference. He is not going to turn straight. Disowning is used like a punishment. A punishment that really has no effect on the person as he already has braised himself for that, knew it was coming and already has tuned his mind to move on. In reality…HE shuns them and just carries on.

What these families don’t understand, that we move on. Its them who loses. You shun us, there is a whole world out there who would accept us. At one point, the constant pain would reduce to an occasional pinch and then to nothing. But its the family who would be frozen in time.

And in this case, as Yuvraaj is in movies, they would be reminded of him everytime his face is splashed on the tabloid. The irony is, he is not even gay. Atleast we don’t know …. yet.

So it Yuvraaj… hang in there kiddo. There is a bigger family out there who has open their arms wide to take you in. Whether you are gay or not doesn’t matter to us.

For we don’t judge.

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