Archive for May, 2012

Not all old customs are outdated and should be shunned!!!

In recent times, in Canada and in the US there has been incidences of kids coming to school with writings on their shirts that has offended others. Some were homophobic and offended the LGBT community and some were pro-gay and offended the bigotted, religious, hateful group.

When I was a school going kid, till high school, we had uniforms; whether it was government or private. In India, even today it has not changed. Could this problem be avoided if all schools here had the same rule?

Kids should be treated equally, irrespective of their sexual orientation, religious belief, family structure or heritage. School is not a platform for kids to advertise their own or their family beliefs…whether pro or anti gay. Religion is more touchy a subject than any other. In countries like India, Canada, US where every school has students of different nationality, culture, religious background, a uniformity is essential. Under the roof of an educational institution, every kid’s identity should be one..student. Nothing else.

I have realized, the education system in India is way more balanced than that in the western world as far as catering to a diverse group is concerned. We had Hindu, Christian, Muslim teachers in school. Our course over the school years taught in equal balance about Islam, Christianity Hinduism, Buddhism. And it was taught under history, where these were bound to come up. And they were unbiased, and did exactly what they were supposed to do. Educate us about the different religions, cultures and people who live beyond the four walls of the school, or the bounderies of the city, state or country. Nothing more, nothing less.

Kids from different financial background come to school. Uniforms make sure, the affluent don’t go around in designer clothes while their class-mates wear hand-me-downs, that way, lessens the chance of less priviledged kids devaloping infiriority complex.

We see a very good example of this in the Harry Potter series (yah I know, I had to bring that up). The Malfoys and the Weasleys. The affluent Malfoys and not so priviledged Weasley family. Inspite of having a uniform, Ron has been mercilessly taunted and rediculed by Draco and his father Lucius for his second hand books, hand-me-down robes. Can you imagine, if there were no uniform, what would have been the plight of Ron?

On a slightly different issue…we have catholic schools in India. My sister used to attend one. Yes, they used to have prayers everyday at the beggining of school. Being a catholic school, obviously the prayers were excerpts from The Bible and about Jesus. Honestly, we never had any problem with them. The school was in our neighbourhood. So we could hear the kids singing every day before class commenced, and it was very very normal. Maybe thats what taught us from childhood to be open and accepting of different kind of people with their different backgrounds.

So, I think, maybe its time to bring back uniforms in schools and let the kids be just just students again.


A candid interview of a gay Indian “happily” married to a woman

A different culture, a different social set-up, but similar social expectations… and a gay man caught in this web and making the best he could and in his own words…”HAPPY”. A logical, practical man, who found the perfect balance, at least for the time being.

A little background of the guy…

He got married due to social and parental obligations. Has a wonderful wife and a son. Making a lot of money by working in an MNC. Three of them are happily living as a unit. As far as I could gather, he is very happy and so is everyone around him.

He has an urge to be with a man every couple of months that he needs to fulfill.

Q1. Are you happy?

A. Happiness is a very subjective term. In Indian context we feel happy when we make someone happy. My mom, wife, son and relatives are happy. This makes me happy.

Q2. Why did you get married knowing you are gay?

A.  In India either you have to be extremely strong to remain single or emotionally unattached. I was neither. My mom was alone after my father and needed company. My small sacrifice balanced the equation.

Q3. Ain’t you cheating your wife?

A. If you consider my body I am cheating, but if you consider my soul, its hers. For a few years after marriage I felt incomplete and felt like I was cheating myself, cause I never used to go out. Now whenever I feel the urge I get hold of a guy like you and satisfy my physical needs.

Q4. How long will this continue?

A. Till I want my marriage to last. My physical satisfaction has lead to my completeness in my married life. At least I am not sharing my bed with another woman who can be a threat to my wife and son.

Q5. How did you train your mind…being a total bottom?

A. It was simple. I simply made my mind like my wife. I started feeling for her and the liking started.

Q6. Don’t you feel, by going out you are putting yourself and your wife in grave danger?

A. No, I am very careful in choosing people and I make sure I use protection. It is much better than the straight guys who go to other women every fortnight.

Q7. If your wife comes to know?

A. That’s a risk associated with every man who goes out.

Mumbai Court gives green light for sex reassignment surgery

Bombay High Court gave permission to 21 years old Bidhan Barua to go through sex reassignment surgery.

Mr. Barua always felt he was a woman trapped in a man’s body. Loved wearing female clothes when he was young and as a result got reprimanded, beaten up by his family. In grade 8, he learnt about sex reassignment surgery and how much it will cost. He started doing odd jobs after school to save money for the surgery.

The incidence that solidified his resolve to go through it, is the psychiatric test that he took in Guwahati to access whether he was fit to go through the surgery and he passed.  After that he ran away from home and came to Mumbai and started living with his cousin.

He was initially supposed to get the surgery on the 17th of April but found his bank account blocked by his parents who even threatened the doctors if they went ahead with it. He had left his job in preparation for the surgery and now his bank account being blocked he was almost broke. He informed the judge that due to this he has no money to pay for a lawyer. The judge told him that if needed, the court will appoint an amicus curie to help him out.

In his petition, Bidhan ( who likes to go by the female name Swati) informed the Chief Justice of India, Chief Justice of Bombay High Court and National Human Rights Commission urging them to step in and give a ruling in his favour or he will commit suicide. Further in his letters he wrote, “For the last two weeks, I am running from door to door seeking justice but the court does not have time to hear me. I do not have any money for my food, lodging. So I am finally requesting the court to pass an immediate order against my family or grant me an order for an authorised suicide.”

“I will kill myself if I do not get an order for my surgery by this evening. For my suicide, the Chief Justice of the Bombay High Court will be responsible”, and he signed it.

This decision comes soon after the court last Thursday warned Bidhan from using pressure tactics and threatening to commit suicide to push his case swiftly through the court system.

NC pastor Sean Harris urges parents to punch and beat up their kids at the first sign of gay mannerisms

Sean Harris, the Senior Pastor of Berean Baptist Church in Fayetteville, N.C., during his “Marriage Sunday” service ( a campaign to urge people to vote for Amendment 1, which will bring a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage ) was heard urging fathers to crack the limp wrists of their boys the moment they start showing any signs of being homosexual.

In his exact words, “Dads, the second you see your son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give him a good punch. Ok?” said Harris, adding, “And when your daughter starts acting too butch, you reign her in.”

How sad and pathetic is the fact that Harris is a christian or a follower of Christ who himself was love and compassion personified, the biggest example for self sacrifice for people in general, not specially for heterosexuals.

The issue goes in front of the North Carolina voters on May 8.

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